Unequally Yoked

Love is blind,

And lovers cannot seeThe pretty folliesThat themselves commit.Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice III, 6NOT only is love blind, but it must also be deaf, dumb and stubborn too. Why do I say that? Because there are some couples who have to be blind, deaf and silly to even try to form some sort of relationship. They are so mismatched that it’s like pairing a giraffe and a hippo and then say, go and make a happy life. It’s just not going to happen as it goes against all laws of nature.The Bible speaks of being unequally yoked, and what better book to speak of such things? 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion has light with darkness?” Serious words eh, and not to be taken lightly. Yet some people choose to ignore them at their peril.Even when faced with the seemingly impossibility of a natural match-up, many people still think that love, lust or money will conquer all. And in spite of all the obvious differences, they still plunge headlong into relationships, daring to defy the odds. They could be as different as night is from day, they still think that their case is the exception to the rule, and that they’ll have a wonderful future together.But they’re just a train wreck waiting to happen, as being unequally yoked can spell disaster for any relationship. Statistics do not lie.So that’s our slant today, being unequally yoked, right after some feedback to Denial.Hey Tony,There is no such thing as a two-timing cheating man. Men are always honest in their relationships and are straightforward and truthful and faithful to their wives and significant others. When they are out late at night without their women, it is for a very good reason, usually working hard to support the family, putting food on the table, a roof over their head, showering them with gifts, and providing for them.Women are equally faithful and trusting as they rightly know that their men will never cheat on them. They dutifully make their homes welcoming and comforting, ensure that a great meal is ready and waiting for when their hard-working men come home. They also make themselves available at all times, if and when their men require a little roll in the hay.Oh, there is no such thing as denial.WickhamOntario, CanadaDaddy Oh,We all have to sup from the cup of denial once in a while. As you rightly put it, it is the drug that we need to get by. As women, we know what the men are up to, but we turn a blind eye. As wives, we know that our husbands do not feel the same way about us, but we act as if they do. As mothers, we know that our sons are not the brightest cards in the deck, in fact he may be the joker, but to us, he’s the king of hearts.Denial is what puts the sheen on the dull clay and the sparkle in a loveless marriage. It’s what makes insane sane. So don’t knock denial, my son, for if it wasn’t for that opiate, many of us would be climbing the walls of a padded cell.DorisI saw a feature on the Internet that showed these May/December couples. Those, of course, are couples who fall into different age groups, different years, different decades, different eras, and different time zones. It was captioned, “Is he her grandpa or her husband?” And it showed various high-profile Hollywood couples who looked so mismatched that you’d think that it was a cruel joke. There are the men, all wrinkled and grey, gnarled and weather beaten, wizened and woeful, yet squiring beautiful young women who could easily be one-third their age. He is 76 years old, she is 26, and they’re married. Do the math.For those of you who may not know, a yoke is a contraption that holds the necks of oxen together as they pull the plough through the field. It binds them as one, making the plough a two- oxen powered tool as they work in unison. If the animals aren’t matched properly in size and strength, then the plough won’t function properly. Hence the term, unequally yoked.So the age inequality is a very obvious and real factor, and can cause myriad problems. One is when the December partner grows old and dies, leaving a… Read full article in our E-paper here

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Unequally Yoked